Traditional Guidelines for Determining Your Wedding Style

Wedding Style GuidelinesWhat Kind of Wedding?

Given the changing social climate, what are the traditional standards that define the formal, semi-formal and informal weddings? And while you may think it doesn’t matter, the degree of formality you choose does influence many other planning decisions. These are the traditional guidelines for determining each style but you can (and probably will) choose your own variations.

Formal Wedding

Is usually held in a church, synagogue or a luxury hotel. Its reception is usually held in a luxury hotel, private club or private estate. Invitations are sent to 100 or more guests. Engraved or printed invitations are used with traditional wording. The bride wears a floor length gown with chapel or sweeping train veil. The groom wears cutaways or tails as do the attendants. Bridesmaids wear floor length gowns. Guests wear formal or evening wear. The reception is a sit down dinner, with live entertainment, elaborate event design, elegant flowers and luxury transportation.


Is usually held in a church, synagogue, private home or outdoors. The reception is held at the same location as the ceremony, or at a restaurant, garden or home. There are fewer than 100 guests. Invitations may be printed with traditional or personalized wording. The bride wears a floor length or cocktail length gown with fingertip veil or hat. The groom and his attendants wear either matching tuxedos or suits and ties. Bridesmaids wear matching floor or cocktail length dresses. Guests wear either evening or business dress. The reception can be a sit down dinner or buffet or light refreshments depending on time of day. There may be live music or a D.J. The floral arrangements or event design are scaled down.


These type of weddings are daytime ceremonies held in a home, community center, hotel or judge’s chambers. There are fewer than 50 guests. Invitations may be printed or hand-written with personalized wording. The bride wears a simple suit or dress with no veil or train. Groom wears a suit and tie. Each have one attendant. Reception can be held at home, or restaurant. Simple meal or light refreshments are chosen and if any floral designs are used, they are very simple.

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Complete Wedding Tipping Cheat Sheet for your Gratuities

Every Detail of your Wedding Reception - Tipping the Wedding Planner
You are busy assembling all the pieces of your wedding budget.  In some cases you’ve come in under your estimate and in others – whoops – you’re over what you planned to spend.  There is one more category that you need to add before you finalize the expenditures – TIPS!!!!  Depending on the size and scope of your wedding plans, the gratuities could turn into a sizable amount.

Maybe you are thinking that the tip is included in the contract you signed with your caterer.  Maybe it is – but check.

Wedding Day Tipping Guidelines

Here are some guidelines that you may find helpful.  But remember that they are just that – suggestions.  Who you decide to tip and how much is truly up to you.

How much do I tip Caterers and Reception Site Managers?

Each of these spots will usually include a 15-20% gratuity in their contracts.  Since catering bills may be paid in full in advance, that will be included and hopefully be shared with the service staff.  If you were delightfully surprised by service etc., you may wish to give an additional tip of $1 per guest. – Your choice. (more…)

These 4 Things Will Change The Way You Approach Using Social Media For Your Wedding

Social Media for WeddingsSocial media probably plays a huge role in your daily life. Your iPhone or similar device is always on and if not in your hands, close by. And it can be a big help as you begin the process of planning your wedding. There are great sites with wonderful pictures, blogs from other brides and advertisements from venues, resources, and planners. They can be a great resource for information and where to start.

It’s a perfect way to share information about your wedding. Facebook, Twitter, Blogs, Websites – all give you an easy way to inform guests about your plans. But there is a downside to this. To quote one expert- “You should be careful what you say and post on social media. It can be shared and manipulated by hackers, thieves, “frenemies” and others. A good rule of thumb – don’t post anything you wouldn’t want your mom to know.”