As you add “Buy bridesmaids’ gifts for attendants” to your to do list, consider all that they are giving you.
Do you have to buy gifts for your bridesmaids? No! Do you have to thank them for what they are doing for you? Absolutely!
Whether it’s one witness at a Justice of the Peace or 6 college friends who are flying in to be a part of your special day, standing up for you at your wedding is quite a commitment. They are likely buying a dress, shoes and maybe a headpiece of sorts. It’s likely that they are attending at least one shower for you and will no doubt be giving you a wedding gift. Some of them may have incurred flight or other travel expenses just getting to your wedding.
The gift you choose for your bridesmaids is important and must be accompanied by a huge thank you for being a part of the most important event in your life.
What to give for bridesmaid’s gifts? Here are some innovative ideas to consider.
1. Give them some bling.
A favorite is jewelry, accessories, or personal items monogrammed or in individual favorite colors. These gifts are usually given either during a bridesmaid’s luncheon or at the rehearsal dinner along with the groom’s gifts to his attendants.
2. Let them unwind.
If schedules permit, many brides choose to host a spa day for their attendants. A day of relaxing massages, facials and personal attention is hard to beat.
3. Pay their way.
If you are planning a destination wedding, paying their travel expenses would be a marvelous gift. If you can’t swing the airfare, plan to cover at least their ground accommodations.
4. Send a bouquet.
Plan to send post wedding flowers to the bridesmaids at their place of employment whenever/wherever possible. Send a thank you note with the flowers. If they cannot be delivered to the job site, send them to her home.
Brides and grooms are glad to share ideas from their weddings – if you ask them. Some stores send a note with the gown when it is picked up. The note is a thank you from the store, wishing her and the groom a long and happy life together, and asking the bride to share her thoughts after the big event.
This note is usually printed on good paper stock and has the store’s logo on it along with the greetings and good wishes. They also enclose a stamped and printed return envelope. It is a way to encourage brides to remember the help and advice you gave, as well as a way to share with future brides.
Here are some wedding ideas and advice we’ve heard from brides:
1. Start With the Invite
Be sure to mail an invitation with all the inserts to yourself. Don’t open it. Keep it in your wedding book and save it for future generations to open.
2. Include Your Guests in the Fun
Ask all friends and relatives to write a favorite recipe on the back of the response card before they return it to you. Keep them in a special place throughout your married life.
3. Use Your Life For Inspiration
We weren’t sure what color theme we wanted and finally decided to use the color of each of our birthstones. It was lovely.
4. Purchase Extras For the Occasion
If you are going to throw your garter (or the groom will) be sure you purchase two: one to toss and one you want to keep.
5. Start a Tradition in Honor of Your Big Day
We decided to buy a new silver dollar with the year of our wedding on it. We plan to buy a new one every year on our anniversary.
6. Explore the Gift of Generosity
Because it was a second wedding for both of us, we decided we didn’t want any gifts. We picked a charity that we both support and asked that in lieu of gifts to us, gifts be given to the charity. We plan to donate to it every year on our anniversary.
7. Say Thank You Creatively
My groom bought lottery tickets for each of his attendants and placed in one pocket of each tux as a way to say thanks for being in my wedding.
A great deal of time, energy, money and planning went into creating the wedding of your dreams…Everyone wished you well and thought your wedding was one of the nicest and loveliest events they had attended…But…One of the biggest reasons that guests were so pleased to be a part of the event, is how pleasant and charming you – the bride was throughout the entire process.
We want our brides to be happy with the wedding of their dreams and we also want them to be the source of warm thoughts and memories from relatives and guests who see her at her very best. She is gracious and focused on others. The most charming bride is the one whose focus is not on herself alone, but one who shares her happiness with family and friends.
Don’t talk about the wedding non-stop. It’s good that you are enthusiastic and excited about your upcoming wedding, but hard as it is to believe, not everyone in your orbit needs or wants to hear every little detail, every day for the months of preparation. As one guest remarked, “Believe it or not, the world was turning on its axis every day without everyone knowing every detail every hour.”
Your wedding is OUR focus as we help you plan, but not every person you meet shares that focus. Some brides have a “me first” attitude throughout the planning process. That can be hard to take.
People wish you well and want you to be happy, but it is unrealistic to expect everyone to drop everything and focus only on you and your wedding. WE will focus on you and we will help you create a memorable event while you the bride treat your family and friends with genuine care and sharing.
For more answers to your questions about creating the wedding of your dreams call Alexandra’s Bridal at 508-916-2443 or email us at [email protected] and speak with an experienced consultant.
Music sets the tone and atmosphere of an event. The right music can pull your wedding plans together while the “wrong” music can offset any plans you may have made. Take the time to select the right music and the right venue. A formal evening wedding sets expectations for the music chosen, just as an informal beach wedding is best carried off with music that matches the surroundings. Seek out the advice of experts, audition musical groups and have a good sense of the mood you want to create for your wedding. Audition professionals who will have a real impact on your ceremony.
Before you fall in love with a “must have” playlist, be sure to check with the church or synagogue where your ceremony is to be held to learn of their requirements. If there are restrictions – you must follow them. If there are few, here are some guidelines that will be helpful as you plan this part of the ceremony.
*Music should begin about 30 minutes prior to the ceremony. This introductory music is usually instrumental and designed to set the mood for the ceremony to follow. If you have planned a solo, it is customary for it to be sung just after the mother of the bride is seated. That is a signal to the guests that the professional is soon to begin.
*The processional is usually an instrumental that has a good beat to walk to. Once the attendants have all reached the altar, the music “changes” and announces the bride’s entrance and her walk down the aisle to the altar. The music chosen can be traditional or more contemporary depending on personal taste but try not to make a drastic change of mood or tone. It is usually an instrumental.
*One or two songs may be played or sung during the ceremony. More than that is considered too much. Again, they should reflect the tone of the ceremony.
*Recessional music is likely to be more upbeat as the wedding party exits. The bride and groom and the attendants should be smiling as they walk back down the aisle.
It is likely that you will want live music for the ceremony but pre-recorded music may be used in some places.
If you don’t know what music you want, consult an expert, chat with the musicians you’ve chosen or go online to sites which list music ideas.